You have done everything possible, you are looking for the right way out, although still nothing happens, and you are not sure that the gap - this is the best way out of the situation. In this article we will talk about when to break off the relationship, so you can decide for yourself whether the gap the best option for you.
Dennis Neder (Dennis Neder), author of the book "How to be a man in the world of women," says that if a couple does not bind the children, while the gap comes when a couple is no longer any mutual benefit. "If you do not get what you want or what you need, being paired with this or that person, it's time to move on without him," - he says.
Although many would argue that this is an extremely selfish point of view, Dr. Neder says that the couple can not live in harmony, if someone of them uncomfortable in these respects. Much better to create the relationships that will "work" for you and that will give you what you need, than to cling to something that makes you just discontent.
"We all know examples of unhealthy relationships from which people either do not want or can not get rid of" - he continues. "These people are using their power to breathe life into their relationship, however, our life is too short, so we allowed ourselves the luxury of wasting their strength." According to Dr. Neder relationship should be your journey, but the problem with many people is that they refuse to travel in favor of another. So the best thing you can do for yourself - is to decide exactly where you make your way to find a man whose way is similar to yours, and only later to see where you will be able to cross. "Think well about what it is you are looking for before creating relationships." Thus, you will be much more likely to have a healthy relationship, and quickly finish unhealthy.
Gap - it is always difficult
Many people, being in a long term relationship, once realize that they have abandoned their dreams and plans of their future, in order to "fit" into someone else's future. Difficulties in the break, often make people forget about what it means to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity that fuels the desire to maintain an unhealthy relationship.
Neder says that we should realize that we are alone in your life, even if located next to someone. "The gap - it's not bad, in fact for most people is that their releases."
Should you give up?
Each pair is facing a crisis in the relationship. This is normal, and most manage to get through it. However, experts say that there is no specific formula for determining the point when you should break up, there are only signs that need attention. If you are in for a long time watching a few of them, then maybe you should think about the severance of relations.
Here are the signs:
• You no longer get the relationship that you need or what you want. Let's face it, if you are unhappy, most likely, your partner feels the same way.
• You can no longer communicate with your partner. Everyone has their own style of communication, however, you do not want to waste their strength to communicate with each other.
• You no longer wait with impatience the moment when you can spend time alone with your partner, with your sex life can be anything as good, however, you do not communicate. Do you prefer to spend time with other people, but would not be alone.
• You are constantly criticizing a partner and try to directly control it. If you are always worried about some aspect of your partner's personality or his appearance, try not to stress this - look at yourself. People who are in love, do not notice things like that and look at the whole picture.
• You compare your partner with others. When you love someone, you do not compare it with anyone. If you do, then you should reconsider your relationship.
• You are trying to change your partner. Often we fall in love with those who are not for us. If you notice that you always want to change the order, who are close, maybe it's time to move on without him.
• You are no longer laughing. Humour - this is what is needed any relationship. If you partner is no longer a joke seem ridiculous, or you can no longer lead carefree conversations, it may be a sign that the relationship had lost its meaning.
• You only get or just give away. Relationship - is mutual benefit. If only one partner receives it, the relationship unhealthy.
• Your friends do not want to be with you when your partner is around. Your partner may like your friends, however, they no longer enjoy the influence that it has on you. Often it happens that if the relationship is something goes wrong, friends are the first to notice the changes and talk about it.
• You no longer feel confident. Think about how you feel when your relationship is just beginning. If this feeling is gone, you should reconsider what is happening.
No matter how fit you relationship break - it's always painful. You need to give yourself time to stay in the sorrow and grief. This can not be avoided, because without it you will not be able to reach a new stage of his life.
Dennis Neder (Dennis Neder), author of the book "How to be a man in the world of women," says that if a couple does not bind the children, while the gap comes when a couple is no longer any mutual benefit. "If you do not get what you want or what you need, being paired with this or that person, it's time to move on without him," - he says.
Although many would argue that this is an extremely selfish point of view, Dr. Neder says that the couple can not live in harmony, if someone of them uncomfortable in these respects. Much better to create the relationships that will "work" for you and that will give you what you need, than to cling to something that makes you just discontent.
"We all know examples of unhealthy relationships from which people either do not want or can not get rid of" - he continues. "These people are using their power to breathe life into their relationship, however, our life is too short, so we allowed ourselves the luxury of wasting their strength." According to Dr. Neder relationship should be your journey, but the problem with many people is that they refuse to travel in favor of another. So the best thing you can do for yourself - is to decide exactly where you make your way to find a man whose way is similar to yours, and only later to see where you will be able to cross. "Think well about what it is you are looking for before creating relationships." Thus, you will be much more likely to have a healthy relationship, and quickly finish unhealthy.
Gap - it is always difficult
Many people, being in a long term relationship, once realize that they have abandoned their dreams and plans of their future, in order to "fit" into someone else's future. Difficulties in the break, often make people forget about what it means to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity that fuels the desire to maintain an unhealthy relationship.
Neder says that we should realize that we are alone in your life, even if located next to someone. "The gap - it's not bad, in fact for most people is that their releases."
Should you give up?
Each pair is facing a crisis in the relationship. This is normal, and most manage to get through it. However, experts say that there is no specific formula for determining the point when you should break up, there are only signs that need attention. If you are in for a long time watching a few of them, then maybe you should think about the severance of relations.
Here are the signs:
• You no longer get the relationship that you need or what you want. Let's face it, if you are unhappy, most likely, your partner feels the same way.
• You can no longer communicate with your partner. Everyone has their own style of communication, however, you do not want to waste their strength to communicate with each other.
• You no longer wait with impatience the moment when you can spend time alone with your partner, with your sex life can be anything as good, however, you do not communicate. Do you prefer to spend time with other people, but would not be alone.
• You are constantly criticizing a partner and try to directly control it. If you are always worried about some aspect of your partner's personality or his appearance, try not to stress this - look at yourself. People who are in love, do not notice things like that and look at the whole picture.
• You compare your partner with others. When you love someone, you do not compare it with anyone. If you do, then you should reconsider your relationship.
• You are trying to change your partner. Often we fall in love with those who are not for us. If you notice that you always want to change the order, who are close, maybe it's time to move on without him.
• You are no longer laughing. Humour - this is what is needed any relationship. If you partner is no longer a joke seem ridiculous, or you can no longer lead carefree conversations, it may be a sign that the relationship had lost its meaning.
• You only get or just give away. Relationship - is mutual benefit. If only one partner receives it, the relationship unhealthy.
• Your friends do not want to be with you when your partner is around. Your partner may like your friends, however, they no longer enjoy the influence that it has on you. Often it happens that if the relationship is something goes wrong, friends are the first to notice the changes and talk about it.
• You no longer feel confident. Think about how you feel when your relationship is just beginning. If this feeling is gone, you should reconsider what is happening.
No matter how fit you relationship break - it's always painful. You need to give yourself time to stay in the sorrow and grief. This can not be avoided, because without it you will not be able to reach a new stage of his life.
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